Pregnant? Considering Adoption?
You’ve come the right place. The fact that you are here looking for information shows your desire to make an informed choice for your unexpected pregnancy. I hope that you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone in this. We will be here as much as you desire during this season of your life. If you’re ready to talk about your future and how we might be helpful to you, Contact us.
Some of the reasons women consider adoption
- Unemployment, limited income, significant debt, minimal or no support from family
- Feeling too young or too old to parent
- Lack of a support system, father not supportive
- No housing, or unstable living situation
- Substance use, incarceration, high risk lifestyles
- Illness in the mother or the unborn baby
- Unstable mental health
- Domestic violence or rape
- Parenting other children
- Prioritizing career or educational goals
- Not having a desire to be a parent
- ….and many more!
What to Expect From Absolute Love:
- First things first, let's get to know one another. An Adoption Specialist will meet you in a place where you are most comfortable. We'll spend time learning about what your hopes and fears are related to this pregnancy.
- We will help connect you to a counselor, and pay for it if your insurance does not cover. This choice has lifelong implications and we want you to have the professional support available to ensure you are making the most informed decision.
- After learning what your requests are, we find you a family for your child. We help you to build that relationship through whatever avenue feels most comfortable: written, phone calls or in person meetings. We then help establish a post placement plan for how often and in what way you'll stay connected to your child and their chosen family.
- During your labor and delivery, we can be there with you if you'd like. We can also arrange for you to have a Doula for delivery. When you are ready, but no sooner than 72 hours after delivery, we will start to talk about paperwork that will initiate the legal process of adoption for your child.
- When you return home from the hospital, and the baby goes home with the family you've chosen, we continue seeing you regularly for 3 months to provide support post placement. You can request we extend this period of regular support should you wish. We will continue to be available to you throughout your lifetime as you need.
- We are also available to facilitate post placement communication and visitation, depending on the specifics of your post placement agreement with the chosen family.
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Frequently asked questions
Absolutely. You are in complete control of how adoption looks for you and your child. You are not giving away your baby or abandoning them. With Foster Care, the child welfare system is deciding who parents your child and how you can stay connected, if at all. Adoption is a well thought out, planned choice and process that is motivated by love and care.
An expectant parent talks with the Adoption Specialist about the things that are important to them regarding the family they’d like for their child. Some expectant parents request the agency to pick a family, and want very little involvement. Others identify the race, family composition, religion, hobbies, or other characteristics of their desired family. We will work together to meet your needs regarding the things you feel are important. If the family of your reams is not available through Absolute Love, we use a large network of connections throughout the country to find the right fit for you.
You communicate your desires for the potential adoptive parent(s) with regards to their age, race, location, religion, hobbies, or other characteristics you feel are important. There is an approved family that is open to parenting your child regardless of anything you tell us about your lifestyle or your medical history. We have several approved families within the agency to offer you, and their profiles can be found HERE. If you don’t find the family you are looking for, tou are certainly not limited to those families. We have a wonderful network of professionals who have hundreds of approved families. At your request, we will search far and wide to find THE family you are seeking. Visit our blog HERE for info on how to choose a family.
You sure can! If you’d like to talk to the family beforehand, meet them, include them at the delivery, spend time with them, etc, that is up to you. We use the amount of contact you want with the family to help find the right family that is looking for the same level of openness and frequency of communication with you.
Our job is to help him understand adoption and involve him in this decision, if possible. There are often situations where the birth father is unknown, or it’s complicated, and that is why we have an attorney help us navigate his rights.
This also depends on what is decided in the Post Adoption Contact Agreement and is individualized based on the comfort levels of both families. You can communicate directly to one another and exchange personal information, you can go through the agency who will facilitate this arrangement for you, or you can go through an outside party to communicate. This will be discussed at length and included in your agreement.
You are not required to have your own attorney, but you are encouraged to. The agency covers the cost of any expenses related to your legal counsel. Best practice is that you at least consult with an attorney to know your rights and options, and it should be an attorney separate from the attorney the family is using.