Expectant Mothers

Placing a child for adoption

Pregnant? Considering Adoption?

You’ve come the right place. The fact that you are here looking for information shows your desire to make an informed choice for your unexpected pregnancy. I hope that you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone in this. We will be here as much as you desire during this season of your life. If you’re ready to talk about your future and how we might be helpful to you, Contact us.

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Some of the reasons women consider adoption

  • Unemployment, limited income, significant debt, minimal or no support from family
  • Feeling too young or too old to parent
  • Lack of a support system, father not supportive
  • No housing, or unstable living situation
  • Substance use, incarceration, high risk lifestyles
  • Illness in the mother or the unborn baby
  • Unstable mental health
  • Domestic violence or rape
  • Parenting other children
  • Prioritizing career or educational goals
  • Not having a desire to be a parent
  • ….and many more!
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What to Expect From Absolute Love:

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Frequently asked questions

The plan for you as an expectant parents is highly individualized and looks differently for each person. We like to meet with you initially to get to know you and your story. We then meet every few weeks, or even weekly depending on how close you are to delivery and how much support you’d like from our Adoption Specialists.
 
At some point we have you complete an expectant parent background form and releases so that we may retrieve your medical records pertaining to the pregnancy. We will connect you to community resources that may benefit you.
 
During the third trimester we connect you with the adoptive parents of your choosing and help you build that relationship. We can arrange for you to have a delivery doula at the hospital should you desire. We then support you until you can sign your consents and the baby is discharged.
 
Once you leave the hospital, we continue meeting with you regularly until you are comfortable and wish to discontinue visits. We provide and/or pay for counseling for you for a lifetime. We can assist you with job finding, building a resume, finding a school program, daycare or whatever other self-improvement goals you may have for yourself after placement.

Absolutely. You are in complete control of how adoption looks for you and your child. You are not giving away your baby or abandoning them. With Foster Care, the child welfare system is deciding who parents your child and how you can stay connected, if at all. Adoption is a well thought out, planned choice and process that is motivated by love and care.

An expectant parent talks with the Adoption Specialist about the things that are important to them regarding the family they’d like for their child. Some expectant parents request the agency to pick a family, and want very little involvement. Others identify the race, family composition, religion, hobbies, or other characteristics of their desired family. We will work together to meet your needs regarding the things you feel are important. If the family of your reams is not available through Absolute Love, we use a large network of connections throughout the country to find the right fit for you.

You communicate your desires for the potential adoptive parent(s) with regards to their age, race, location, religion, hobbies, or other characteristics you feel are important. There is an approved family that is open to parenting your child regardless of anything you tell us about your lifestyle or your medical history. We have several approved families within the agency to offer you, and their profiles can be found HERE. If you don’t find the family you are looking for, tou are certainly not limited to those families. We have a wonderful network of professionals who have hundreds of approved families. At your request, we will search far and wide to find THE family you are seeking. Visit our blog HERE for info on how to choose a family.

You sure can! If you’d like to talk to the family beforehand, meet them, include them at the delivery, spend time with them, etc, that is up to you. We use the amount of contact you want with the family to help find the right family that is looking for the same level of openness and frequency of communication with you.

Our job is to help him understand adoption and involve him in this decision, if possible. There are often situations where the birth father is unknown, or it’s complicated, and that is why we have an attorney help us navigate his rights.

The written and signed agreement details how often you should expect to hear from the family and in what way– a phone call, email, letter or in person visit. The agreement is made before placement happens and is mutually agreeable to you and the adoptive parents. In Pennsylvania you have the option to file this in court and make it legally enforceable. This means that if some part of the agreement is not upheld, the offended party has the opportunity to take it to court to solve if it cannot be satisfactorily settled with agency supporting as a mediary.

 

View this PDF for more information about Post Adoption Contact Agreements.
http://www.dhs.pa.gov/cs/groups/webcontent/documents/bulletin_admin/d_006113.pdf

This also depends on what is decided in the Post Adoption Contact Agreement and is individualized based on the comfort levels of both families. You can communicate directly to one another and exchange personal information, you can go through the agency who will facilitate this arrangement for you, or you can go through an outside party to communicate. This will be discussed at length and included in your agreement.

Legally in Pennsylvania, hopeful adoptive families are not permitted to pay for any expenses for the expectant parents related to the pregnancy or the adoption with the exception of legal or medical. We will assist you with getting Medicaid if you do not alreay have it and qualify. If you have private insurance and services rendered throughout pregnancy are not covered, the adoptive family covers those expenses.
 
Unfortunately we cannot provide financial support in the form of rent, groceries, bills, etc.

You are not required to have your own attorney, but you are encouraged to. The agency covers the cost of any expenses related to your legal counsel. Best practice is that you at least consult with an attorney to know your rights and options, and it should be an attorney separate from the attorney the family is using.

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